Making Self Care Easier on Yourself

Self-care is the first thing to go when your sense of self-worth goes down. Here’s a few tips to make things a little bit easier on yourself.

  • Cleansing Cloths. When I “don’t have time” or just can’t bring myself to shower, I use disposable wipes as a sort of washcloth bath. It’s not as messy or time consuming and I don’t get that strange feeling actual washcloth baths bring. The ones I use the most are facial cleansing wipes—the kind used for removing makeup—because they’re gentle enough to not irritate my skin (mine is pretty sensitive), and they have a cleansing element. Baby wipes will only remove the dirt—think of them as water, and facial wipes as soap and water—and acne treatment wipes should only be used on obvious areas—face, back, upper chest. (The only ones safe to use on your more private areas are the baby wipes, though.)
  • Mouthwash. If you can’t make yourself brush your teeth, mouthwash will at least kill the bacteria. It’s a lot faster and a lot less work. If you can’t make yourself do that, try those little Listerine swatches. They’ll at least make your breath a bit fresher, and take care of some—not all—of the bacteria. Mints are okay (they have sugar in them), and gum’s just alright—and only if you chew the mint kind. Apples are good for helping to clean the plaque off—they’re no substitute for a good brushing, but their texture on your teeth will help.
  • Food. Try to keep readily accessible food nearby. I like lunchmeats—roast beef, salami, smoked salmon (more expensive than the rest), pepperoni, turkey, etc. Fresh fruit also works—if you don’t buy your own food, try asking your parents. If you can, try explaining that having ready-to-eat food on hand will help you to actually eat properly. If you can’t, try spoonfuls of peanut butter if you run out of lunchmeat or something. Nut mixes are also pretty good, and they come in lots of different variations and flavors. If you like avocados, it’s pretty easy to just cut them open and eat them with salt—but they’re also on the expensive side of things.
  • Sleeping. Lie down and sleep every time you feel tired. This is especially applicable when it’s nighttime, especially when it’s really late and why did I stay up. Just lie down, preferably on your back—the natural curve of your skull will support your head and neck a bit more, so you won’t wake up with an arm that’s fallen asleep because you used it as a pillow—plus you’ll be able to get back up again fairly quickly. It’s okay if you get up two minutes later because you thought of something! Just try to lie down every time you feel sleepy—you’re resting your eyes and your body. You go!

I originally posted this on tumblr because a lot of people there struggle with things like depression. When you do not value yourself, you don’t think you’re worth taking care of–worse, you still know your value, but you feel so dumb and helpless that basic self-care doesn’t even cross your mind. 

This is not something I’d recommend to doing all the time, but it can be a nice holdover. For instance, if I am too busy to shower, it’s pretty easy to use the wipes. Works well, smell’s gone, I don’t hate myself for not taking care of myself, it didn’t take a lot of time and it didn’t make a mess.

Take care of yourself!


You don’t need help to blog about things

Hi new followers! I like that you’ve followed my blog. Thanks! I’ve noticed something about some of you, though.

On a consistent basis, one of the posts that makes everyone’s “most popular” list is the one about how to advertise their work.

It’s not just on WordPress. Across the board, people are trying to figure out how to write good posts, how to write well, how to increase their audience, how to become a better blogger, how to provide the best content for their viewers, etc, etc, etc.

AY MAMA. You’re treating it like a job!

Yes, I understand that for many people, this is a job. And I like that! I’d like to make money doing this, myself. But what I’ve seen, across the board, is that the truly popular people aren’t the people who did their research and worked their butts off at marketing their content.

It’s the people who had a blast doing what they’re doing.

Okay, that came out wrong. But when you put time, energy, and genuine emotion into your work, followers will come to you.

It’ll take a while. Your fan base will not sprout overnight. It never does.

But if you truly love what you’re doing, that means you’re interested in doing it.

If you’re truly interested in doing it, that means you’re interested in learning about it.

If you’re truly interested in learning about it, that means you will probably improve, because you will probably be working hard, and you will create genuinely good stuff.

If your stuff is truly, genuinely good, people will like it.

If people truly like it, your audience will grow.

I say it because I’ve seen it happen, again and again. People start doing things “just for fun,” and then whoah, hey, this is now my primary means of support for myself!

Of course, it’s not going to happen the same way for everyone, but the point is this:

Stop worrying about your audience.  

Create things you are passionate about creating–write things you are passionate about writing–and your audience will come to you. 


At Long Last

It’s been a while.

I burned out. I was trying to stretch myself into too many directions at once, and I just… became exhausted. Added to that is the mental and emotional strain of thinking my efforts were worthless, because I’m talented so I should obviously be doing so much better than I already am.

Please note the sarcasm in that last sentence.

I’ve learned that it’s okay to just do nothing. That it’s okay to not be very good at things. I knew this in my brain, but it hasn’t carried over very far into my practical life.

Those of you following this blog have done so because of my “reviews” of Mistborn. I don’t really know why, but I’m grateful. It let me know that my words didn’t amount to nothing.

I’ll try to post more. Anything. Personal posts, reviews, rants…. it’s all fair game, from now on.

The only rule is to keep on writing.